If seeking the approval of others is the principle by which you live by, then you will find this to be no principle at all for you will become someone different from one day and person to the next. Principles are to be like columns to your character, not the sails that follow the whims of the open sea. You must choose. Become one of the columns for greatness, or maneuver yourself between them to extract what you can from the host. Be a parasite or be a person. Pick one for you can not be both!