One might be tempted to think that from the standpoint of survival and evolution that lying and deception are favorable attributes to have. But this is only true in such instances where the organism is operating on its own; like the butterfly that makes the bird believe its wings are the eyes of a predator. But unlike most animals, humans have survived largely due to their ability to collaborate and work in groups. And whichever group contained the most dishonest and desceptive members was by far the one most likely to go extinct first. This is why the more you belong to a group but attempt to operate independently of it, the more likely you are to become a deceptive, manipulative and dishonest individual.
All incorrect bliss will inevitably lead to a correction in the opposite extreme. And while the bliss may be heightened and brief, the sadness the will follow can be long and grueling. Pursue your own compulsive bliss at your own peril.
The lesson a comfortable life is trying to teach us is that gratifying the mortal self is not an attainable or even worthy objective. And whether or not we learn it in life doesn’t matter because death will inevitably teach it to us. Nirvana is attained by learning death’s lesson while you are still alive. This, however,must not be confused with craving a state of submission or enslavement as these are also driven by your own selfish compulsions or that of someone else’s. True liberation must by definition not be contingent on the compulsion of self or other. Once your basic survival and comfort needs are met, external circumstances can serve equally toward your liberation as they can toward inhibiting it. But the more you require external circumstances to accommodate your spiritual needs the less likely you are to ever find spiritual liberation. This is why as a society becomes increasingly affluent, satisfying selfish human compulsion becomes more central to our wellbeing and further away we stray from grace and freedom. This is why the attainment of greater affluence must be balanced with freeing one’s self from compulsion that your affluence can serve you and not hinder you from true blissfulness.
True sadness is the loneliness of having to leave everyone so that you have permission to be sad without being noticed.
Getting to know yourself is much like trying to find the core of an onion by peeling it. In the end what you will find is that there is nothing left of you to identity with the self. And what you truly are is the space you occupy. Thinking you have some sort of identity is as foolish as a bubble thinking it’s something other than the air inside it.
The compulsion for sexuality in men manifests itself in the sexual act itself and any actions leading up to it. The compulsion for sexuality in women manifests itself in her desire to draw attention from these men. Each may do all manner of intellectual gymnastics to pretend their actions are motivated by noble reasons, but the truth is, the compulsion was there first, long before the mind came up with excuses.
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If your female partner has absolutely no desire to engage sexually with you it’s because she has no desire to feel loved by you. And if your female partner has an extreme desire to engage with you sexually it’s because she desires to feel loved by you and not because she has sexual cravings. The sexual craving for orgasm is by and large a phenomena unique to male sexuality. And thus, while men are titillated by a woman just for being a woman, women are titillated by men just for being men. A man wants to climax while a woman wants to see a man she admires and respects climax and for herself to be the cause of it. This is the nature of male and female sexuality in its rawest form.
We live in a time when society has exchanged virtue for compulsivity and taken such pride in this decision that they’ve denied taking responsibility for the failures they’ve brought onto themselves and turned to the government to aid them in blaming others.
Every compulsive act is a dishonest one. And unless you are in a state of restraint, these actions will inevitably bring you suffering in your life – either through the resentment you build in the process or the consequences they produce for you.
When pursuing personal growth most individuals involve themselves with symptoms and therefore go around in circles never improving themselves. If you’d truly like to pursue personal growth you will first need to identify all of your compulsive behaviors. These may be physical and psychological. Once you’ve identified these and are able to get them under your control, all of the other issues you’ve been trying to address in yourself will go away.
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