A person is like a country.
The boundary gives it its name.
And to say “I have a body” is as if a country could speak in one voice and say “I have a landscape.”
Indeed it has rivers, hills, valleys, perhaps even snow tops. And this is much like our body has a circulatory, respiratory, integumentary and other systems.
Therefore asking “who am I?” is the wrong question and, instead, one must ask “what are all the things that I am?”
After all, one can never know a country unless one knows it in its entirety and you will never know yourself unless you accept fully everything that you are as part of who you are.
Good and generous women will often pick terrible and conniving men and incredibly nice and loving men will often pick bitter and destructive women.
There is no point in denying the fact that this is a true and very real phenomena of the pair bonding experience. It’s a phenomena extensively observed by the time most have reached adulthood. And it’s termed a phenomena because each pair of opposites does not go out consciously knowing what it is they are doing.
The good woman really believes the man she is joining with is a great and righteous person. And likewise, the nice and loving man really believes the woman he has found himself with is incredible and worthy of worship. It’s only over time that the love blinders come off and each sees the person they are with more clearly.
What has happened is that each of the good individuals have Continue reading “The Nature of Pair Bonding”
In the end, our life will be the way we chose to dance to the song that was given to us. You can only control one of these. May your dance be beautiful and uniquely yours.