Good and generous women will often pick terrible and conniving men and incredibly nice and loving men will often pick bitter and destructive women.
There is no point in denying the fact that this is a true and very real phenomena of the pair bonding experience. It’s a phenomena extensively observed by the time most have reached adulthood. And it’s termed a phenomena because each pair of opposites does not go out consciously knowing what it is they are doing.
The good woman really believes the man she is joining with is a great and righteous person. And likewise, the nice and loving man really believes the woman he has found himself with is incredible and worthy of worship. It’s only over time that the love blinders come off and each sees the person they are with more clearly.
What has happened is that each of the good individuals have Continue reading “The Nature of Pair Bonding”
Emotions don’t actually exist on their own and are not the beginning of a feeling. They are reflections of something that is preceding them. Much like a skin problem can at times be a symptom of there being toxins within the body that are emerging and manifesting themselves outwardly.
Evidence for this can be plainly seen when a fictional story rouses a listener or observer to undergo a profound emotional disruption. And to such an extent that it can compel entire populations to take political action, even cause a revolt. In this instance the emotion was manufactured by an external event. The emotion is therefore a chemical change designed to induce a state of mind and action commensurate with the circumstance. The circumstance may be completely synthetic and artificial but the emotions are nonetheless just as effective in driving the host.
Likewise there are also internal circumstances that can cause emotions to emerge. This is why modern medicine makes a profound error by Continue reading “The Nature of Emotions”
Beware of evil genetics when choosing a mate. Out in the world there are narcissists, borderlines, sadists genes, and more. These have all been devised through evolution to capitalize on generous and selfless people.
A borderline female is one such creature. It is the chemical equivalent needed to turn a generous, selfless and kind man into a sadistic, self-centered, egotistic, and narcissistic human being so that when the time is right she can point to him and proclaim her true victim-hood.
The ideal end-game for the borderline chemical is to Continue reading “Evil Genes – A warning to those that love”
The more you talk the less you will listen
The more light you absorbs the less you will reflect.
The harder your exterior the more vulnerable your interior.
Disagreeable people start religions but agreeable people follow them.
The more you help someone the less able they will be to help themselves.
The more knowledge you bond with the less perceptive you will be.
The more masculine he becomes the more feminine will she. And the more masculine she becomes the more feminine will he.
The more you push a pendulum to one side, the more potential energy it gathers to move in the opposite direction.
After all, a planet gives us day and then night because it spins. And it only spins in one direction because both sides move in opposite directions.
Once you understand this ballad of the opposites or everything there is to understand you will finally understand nothing at all.
Therefore be at peace and rest assured things are, and only are because they are the way they are.
Existence is contention, and life, a dance between extremes.
We are all like pristine mirrors when we are born. If you look upon us, you see yourself. If you smile, we smile. If you frown, we frown. We are your mirror.
Then, as we grow (in a healthy environment) we amass beautiful memories that decorate and cover up our mirror. This collection of memories becomes our identity and to some extent our personality.
Once this happens we can no longer reflect you, nor can you, reflect us. So in time, we sense that something is missing. That there is part of us we don’t know… or that we’ve forgotten. So we start to peel away our accouterments and accumulations. And if we are fortunate, we manage to finally restore the pristine mirror that we once were. This is called enlightenment.
Those whom have experienced severe childhood trauma, Continue reading “The Paradigm of the Mirror – A model for self discovery”
The lesson a comfortable life is trying to teach us is that gratifying the mortal self is not an attainable or even worthy objective. And whether or not we learn it in life doesn’t matter because death will inevitably teach it to us. Nirvana is attained by learning death’s lesson while you are still alive. This, however,must not be confused with craving a state of submission or enslavement as these are also driven by your own selfish compulsions or that of someone else’s. True liberation must by definition not be contingent on the compulsion of self or other. Once your basic survival and comfort needs are met, external circumstances can serve equally toward your liberation as they can toward inhibiting it. But the more you require external circumstances to accommodate your spiritual needs the less likely you are to ever find spiritual liberation. This is why as a society becomes increasingly affluent, satisfying selfish human compulsion becomes more central to our wellbeing and further away we stray from grace and freedom. This is why the attainment of greater affluence must be balanced with freeing one’s self from compulsion that your affluence can serve you and not hinder you from true blissfulness.
The compulsion for sexuality in men manifests itself in the sexual act itself and any actions leading up to it. The compulsion for sexuality in women manifests itself in her desire to draw attention from these men. Each may do all manner of intellectual gymnastics to pretend their actions are motivated by noble reasons, but the truth is, the compulsion was there first, long before the mind came up with excuses.
Therefore, every time a woman Continue reading “Sexes”
What is the meaning of spirituality? Does it have a value? Can it be measured? What makes someone more or less spiritual? I think we too often confuse spirituality with religion and therefore, an identity of some kind. And so, for many whom take on the word “spiritual” to describe themselves may often be characterized by devoting the larger of their efforts to growing or spreading their ideas to others and believing themselves to be spiritual for doing so. But given that spirituality is a universal phenomena, it can’t be this. After all, if a Muslim believes themselves to be spiritual when practicing their faith and a Chrisitan when remaining faithful to their own, how could either of them truly claim to know what spirituality really is? Continue reading “The Nature of Spirituality”
Women of the world, hear this!
Men are conditioned to go where they are most needed. If you want a man as a husband, make it evident to him this is the only reason you are getting to know him. If you marry him and want him to be a good husband, make it evident to him, in as many ways you can, that the role he plays as your husband is important to you and why. If you have children and want him to be a good father, never miss the opportunity to tell him how important his role is to your children and repeatedly show him how much you will trust them in his care and how much you are willing to count on him to be their provider, protector, educator and care giver. And if your children grow up, be sure to always express the respect you feel for their father by never undermining the authority and responsibility you’ve given him.
But women of the world, if you continue to tell men that all you need them for is Continue reading “The Responsibility of Women”
When a proper woman assesses a man she sees him now, where he came from, where he is going in life and what he will leave behind after he dies. A woman sees all this only moments after meeting him. This is because ultimately what the human female biology wants is Continue reading “Mating”