When you viscerally dislike someone it is likely because they unabashedly and externally exhibit attributes you have placed great effort in keeping concealed within you. Likewise when you viscerally like someone it is because they unabashedly and externally exhibit those things you would like to and strive to embody externally yourself.
You know you are not being yourself when you are bothered by the presence of those that are just like you are being.
We are all like pristine mirrors when we are born. If you look upon us, you see yourself. If you smile, we smile. If you frown, we frown. We are your mirror.
Then, as we grow (in a healthy environment) we amass beautiful memories that we use to decorate our mirror to such an extent that our mirror becomes fully covered. This collection of memories becomes our identity and to some extent our personality.
Unfortunately we can no longer reflect you, nor can you, reflect us. So in time, we sense that something is missing. That there is part of us we don’t know… or that we’ve forgotten. So we start to peel away our accouterments and accumulations. And if we are fortunate, we restore the pristine mirror that we once were. This is called enlightenment.
Those whom have experienced severe childhood trauma, Continue reading “The Paradigm of the Mirror – A model for self discovery”
The naked and true existence of reality can never be described; You can only dance with it. Those things that can be described can only be described because they have opposites. Light has darkness. Wet has dryness. Soft has hardness, and so on. Reality, has no opposites therefore it can’t be described nor can it even be proven to exist; yet proof of its existence is undeniable.
Intelligence quotient is not a trait, it is a kind of energy source for much of human activity. This is why there is no correlation between this intelligence and things like conscientiousness or consciousness. The more you raise this intelligence in your community, virtuousness and vices will grow equally. Therefore, any efforts you take in promoting education must never take place until your children are taught the virtues needed to perform the duties and responsibilities that come with being a member of a community.
The lesson a comfortable life is trying to teach us is that gratifying the mortal self is not an attainable or even worthy objective. And whether or not we learn it in life doesn’t matter because death will inevitably teach it to us. Nirvana is attained by learning death’s lesson while you are still alive. This, however,must not be confused with craving a state of submission or enslavement as these are also driven by your own selfish compulsions or that of someone else’s. True liberation must by definition not be contingent on the compulsion of self or other. Once your basic survival and comfort needs are met, external circumstances can serve equally toward your liberation as they can toward inhibiting it. But the more you require external circumstances to accommodate your spiritual needs the less likely you are to ever find spiritual liberation. This is why as a society becomes increasingly affluent, satisfying selfish human compulsion becomes more central to our wellbeing and further away we stray from grace and freedom. This is why the attainment of greater affluence must be balanced with freeing one’s self from compulsion that your affluence can serve you and not hinder you from true blissfulness.
Getting to know yourself is much like trying to find the core of an onion by peeling it. In the end what you will find is that there is nothing left of you to identity with the self. And what you truly are is the space you occupy. Thinking you have some sort of identity is as foolish as a bubble thinking it’s something other than the air inside it.
Romantic love is not something you can be inside of. Just like you can’t be in hate, you can’t be in love. Love is only something you can bestow or receive.
The statement “to be in love” may actually refer to emotional entanglement or a state of infatuation. In reality, true love (in romance) is a verb and an action that can be performed and it can take on many forms.
So never say “I love you” with words because this is a lie. It’s like saying “I give to you” and then not doing anything. Those whom say it repeatedly are simply eager to hear it in return because they derive a sense of identity from the opinion of others.
Say instead “I’m going to show you love.” At least then you are making your commitment clear instead of embellishing it with meaningless ornamental language – perhaps only in the hopes of absolving yourself from any commitment or action.
Or better yet, say nothing at all and let your actions speak for themselves.
Vanity is a noble attribute as it stems from our desire to be of value to others. But if we aren’t able (or too lazy) to find a way in which we are valuable to others, vanity will rest it’s place on our body and face. As we age, then, and find it more and more difficult to make this part of us valuable we will descend gradually into a nihilistic and easily corruptible state and a life of crime or self annihilation. Therefore it is important to find self worth in things that don’t fade. Only then will you be truly satisfied with yourself.
There are two attitudes one can have toward life: Life either happens to you, or you happen to life.