If your child doesn’t form a secure bond with you throughout their infancy and childhood, the child will grow up to attach themselves to anyone whom comes their way offering anything that resembles love, even bondage. This is because they will forever be unable to distinguish the difference between the bond they lacked as a child and a parasite that latches onto them claiming to love them.


A man that exhibits an irrational veneration of women and finds himself frequently falling deeply in love with them is simply a boy that never got genuine attention or approval from the female authorities in his life. All things that we lacked in our childhood or have had taken away from us, we will devote our unconscious life trying to recreate.


The answer to all things is this: All of creation is striving to replace something that has been taken away from it.  Nothingness  brought isness for it simply could not bare its desolation.  Likewise, the isness of a human baby felt the loss of its mother’s womb and sought to restore safety and shelter in the arms of its parents.   All of your unconscious impulses and compulsions are Continue reading “Missing”


Romantic love is not something you can be inside of. Just like you can’t be in hate, you can’t be in love. Love is only something you can bestow or receive.

The statement “to be in love” may actually refer to emotional entanglement or a state of infatuation. In reality, true love (in romance) is a verb and an action that can be performed and it can take on many forms.

So never say “I love you” with words because this is a lie. It’s like saying “I give to you” and then not doing anything. Those whom say it repeatedly are simply eager to hear it in return because they derive a sense of identity from the opinion of others.

Say instead “I’m going to show you love.” At least then you are making your commitment clear instead of embellishing it with meaningless ornamental language – perhaps only in the hopes of absolving yourself from any commitment or action.

Or better yet, say nothing at all and let your actions speak for themselves.


While we should tolerate and even welcome criticism of religious thought and tradition we must also be fair and acknowledge that religion has been one of the greatest drivers for human excellence over the vast majority of history. Why else would an artist spend one thousand hours on something they are only getting paid ten hours to do? Why else, if it were not for their devotion to the cause driving their creation? This capitalization of inspiration extended itself to all aspects of life including the sciences but has largely diminished at the turn of the 20th century. And because of it we have now become a society that largely wants convenience over quality and flavor over nutrition. As our devotion to God has ceased, so has our dedication and affinity to excellence been atrophied. Competition is now the only thing left to preserve human grace and excellence. Let us not forgo that also, but rather try to embrace what was once a love of something greater than us that could only be contained within the soul of each individual and never defined or categorized for you by someone else.

The Nature of Spirituality

What is the meaning of spirituality? Does it have a value? Can it be measured? What makes someone more or less spiritual? I think we too often confuse spirituality with religion and therefore, an identity of some kind. And so, for many whom take on the word “spiritual” to describe themselves may often be characterized by devoting the larger of their efforts to growing or spreading their ideas to others and believing themselves to be spiritual for doing so. But given that spirituality is a universal phenomena, it can’t be this. After all, if a Muslim believes themselves to be spiritual when practicing their faith and a Chrisitan when remaining faithful to their own, how could either of them truly claim to know what spirituality really is? Continue reading “The Nature of Spirituality”

The Nature of Forgiveness and Restitution

If someone breaks something of yours, be it intentional or accidental, any ethically minded individual will immediately extend his or her apologies and offer to repair the damage or attempt to replace the item or its value at their own expense.

If however, the individual only says they are sorry and then Continue reading “The Nature of Forgiveness and Restitution”


Being one that gives but does not like receiving is not worthy of giving.
Being one that receives but does not like to give, is not worthy of receiving.

For only those that can give and receive with perfect ease and comfort, can it be said are in balance and worthy of each.