If your female partner has absolutely no desire to engage sexually with you it’s because she has no desire to feel loved by you. And if your female partner has an extreme desire to engage with you sexually it’s because she desires to feel loved by you and not because she has sexual cravings. The sexual craving for orgasm is by and large a phenomena unique to male sexuality. And thus, while men are titillated by a woman just for being a woman, women are titillated by men just for being men. A man wants to climax while a woman wants to see a man she admires and respects climax and for herself to be the cause of it. This is the nature of male and female sexuality in its rawest form.