People will often ask “who am I” after living a life designed by someone else. Don’t go looking for yourself; just shed the cloaks put onto you by others and you’ll see yourself there plainly.
A person is like a country.
The boundary gives it its name.
And to say “I have a body” is as if a country could speak in one voice and say “I have a landscape.”
Indeed it has rivers, hills, valleys, perhaps even snow tops. And this is much like our body has a circulatory, respiratory, integumentary and other systems.
Therefore asking “who am I?” is the wrong question and, instead, one must ask “what are all the things that I am?”
After all, one can never know a country unless one knows it in its entirety and you will never know yourself unless you accept fully everything that you are as part of who you are.
We are all like pristine mirrors when we are born. If you look upon us, you see yourself. If you smile, we smile. If you frown, we frown. We are your mirror.
Then, as we grow (in a healthy environment) we amass beautiful memories that decorate and cover up our mirror. This collection of memories becomes our identity and to some extent our personality.
Once this happens we can no longer reflect you, nor can you, reflect us. So in time, we sense that something is missing. That there is part of us we don’t know… or that we’ve forgotten. So we start to peel away our accouterments and accumulations. And if we are fortunate, we manage to finally restore the pristine mirror that we once were. This is called enlightenment.
Those whom have experienced severe childhood trauma, Continue reading “The Paradigm of the Mirror – A model for self discovery”
If seeking the approval of others is the principle by which you live by, then you will find this to be no principle at all for you will become someone different from one day and person to the next. Principles are to be like columns to your character, not the sails that follow the whims of the open sea. You must choose. Become one of the columns for greatness, or maneuver yourself between them to extract what you can from the host. Be a parasite or be a person. Pick one for you can not be both!